Monday, March 1, 2010
Targets - Desensitize Yourself
I thought I would give some advice for fellow targets on how I handle certain situations of my stalking and what has helped me. Your stalkers are going to sensitize you to things like certain sounds when you are at home or away and possibly visual things as well. They can be common sounds that can be found in any neighborhood but the difference is when the sounds are focused solely at a target who is aware this activity is directed at them that it quickly becomes an abusive pattern. In my case it was prop driven airplanes buzzing the neighborhood and loud cars used in various ways. They will hammer away at you with this stuff night and day until you get sensitized to it. You will or probably have already experienced something similar. It is very likely you did not understand you were being sensitized to these things in the first place and that you were being put through the whole process that targets are put through in the early years of the organized stalking campaign against you. After your stalkers have done these certain sounds through their sound attacks thousands of times in many months against you then you might find yourself having stress and anxiety after hearing it each time. This is where the general public does not get that common sounds can be used as psychological attacks against someone if done constantly and the target knows a group of hostile stalkers is working against them 24/7. The public hears it as normal background noises of the neighborhood but the target alone is the only one aware of the patterns and meanings behind these sounds (attacks) and the group that is after them The general public has never in their life had to ever endure anything similar to this experience of being stalked by a group and the psychological terror tactics used so it is hard for them to imagine it. If you are a target and have reached my blog or other organized group stalking sites, then you are already well on your way to understanding what is happening to you. I am sure it was a great relief when you found out about organized group stalking. I have heard many targets mention this moment of reckoning when they find out they are a target and they are not alone against the madness directed at them in their life anymore. It brings some relief and makes a target feel better to know there are other people out there that understand everything that they have experienced. Understanding what is happening to you makes all the difference in the world because you can become proactive in controlling the psychological damage that is being done to you. The good news is that you can learn to desensitize yourself to your stalkers attacks against you enabling you to try and get some control back in your life. Here are some things I have learned to do that has helped me. Whatever type of attack the stalkers do to you that bothers you, then you need to tell your mind to "reject it" over and over again repeatedly while the attack is going on. Also, be sure to take deep breathes as you do it because it will help your mind and body relax. This will do two things. First it will keep your mind occupied with the "reject it" slogan or any other phrase repeated by you that will occupy your mind and comfort you while the attack is going on and your mind will not be able to react or focus on the attack like it would normally because it is preoccupied with another task. Secondly, you are starting to recondition you mind back to normal again whenever those attacks occur. Its easy to do and very effective at minimizing the damage of the attacks against you. You will have to do it a lot to get back to an acceptable level for yourself and it is something you will have to upkeep regularly but it is well worth it. When you get quiet time you can also program into your head whatever messages you need to combat these psychological attacks with simple and and effective messages. Before I understood the real situation behind my organized stalking and became an aware target, I used to use the slogan in my mind,"have no fear, no anger and no resistance." This is preemptive conditioning and all three ideas in the phrase are good advice to instill in yourself if you are going to survive your stalking over the long run. I also only mean no resistance as in don't engage them in person because you will gain nothing and risk losing your credibility because you might get angry and lose control which is exactly what they want. Remember they are waiting for this to happen in public and it will be recorded and used against you if you lose your cool so do not do it. There are plenty of things you can do behind the scene to resist your stalkers. You can also personalize your slogans you use in your mind to your own situation and whatever works for you. Some other ones I have used when attacked is saying, "It (the attack) has nothing to do with me, and I have nothing to do with it. I am independent of it in mind and thought". This is a really good way to take control of the situation on a mental level. Another idea is you can place the value of zero or the empty set sign in your mind when they attack you. Just think of a giant zero in your head or a wall of thousands of zeros while they are harassing you creating the meaning of nothing to your mind. In essence, teaching your mind to react to it as a meaningless occurrence with no value or purpose. Another thing I have learned is don't be a participant in your own stalking. What I mean is try and not let it affect you mentally where you are always trying to figure out all the crap they are doing to you. The sooner you stop worrying about what they have done to you and why the better off you will be. You will have to learn to control it on your part. If you find yourself obsessing and trying to figure out the patterns and purpose to their attacks then you are letting them win. The same "reject it" technics from above can even be used in this situation after the fact if you find yourself always going back and thinking about these attacks against you. As long as the attacks are only psychological in nature you can greatly reduce their effect by not letting them work on you from your end. One TI summed it up recently by saying something like it is basically just a bunch of idiot losers making noises outside. I think that sums up the stalkers activity outside of my house very well and learn to keep that in mind if you find them getting to you. As for being sensitized to things by sight, it has never been much of a problem for me. It may be for others though so if you are seeing something you don't like then I would use the technics above while it is in sight. Other easy ways to help yourself is learn not to look around when you drive through you neighborhood, when you walk in and out of stores or whatever. I know when a TI is in their early phases of their stalking it is hard not to look around at everything your stalkers do or anybody else for that matter. Don't play into the paranoia the stalkers want you to believe that everybody is in on your stalking. Its not true and only a very small percentage of people are actually taking part in stalking you but you may feel otherwise. There is a simple solution to deal with it and that is to just keep your eyes forward and mind your own business when you go out and you will miss a lot of what they do and take them out of their game big time. You don't have to watch what your stalkers do when you drive down your street, look at them in other cars at intersections, see them in stores or whatever. Its a choice, so save yourself some grief and don't look. Give them the attention they deserve, which would be none. This way your mind wont be trying to figure out who is a stalker and who is not and you will be much happier when you get past this paranoia phase of your stalking. Out of sight, out of mind is a good slogan to live by. The great thing about it is if you do it enough and ignore them consistently then it becomes second nature and you will start to ignore them naturally without even having to put effort into it. Last piece of advice is to mask the noises your stalkers might use against you when you are at home. I recommend using the Mack's wax earplugs in conjunction with a fan close by or a white noise machine. I used this stuff even before my stalking began and it can be a big help in relaxing or sleeping.